- new places
- new people
- leaving work
- spending too much time with your family
- fear of the unknown
- not wanting to come back to your real life!
- it not meeting your expectations
- drinking too much and vomiting
Tuesday, 30 July 2013
what actually is a fear of holidays?
There are so many possibilities....
How about we consider what some call 'the law of attraction' or 'what you focus on is what you'll get!
Our brain is a heat seeking missile and doesn't really know the difference between imagination and reality that’s why we get sucked into a good book or film and develop phobias/fears just like this one. In NLP we use a structure to build goals or more specifically ‘well-formed outcomes’
The well-formedness conditions:
1. Be stated in the positive (that is, what you want, rather than what you don’t want), see positive and negative
2. Be capable of representation in the sensory representational system (tangible rather than theoretical or conceptual: able in principle to be evidenced through the senses when attained - seen, heard, felt etc.)
3. Be initiated and maintained by the individual – achievable.
4. Have all the resources (people, psycho-physiological states, time, capital, equipment, or material) required or accessible.
5. Have a defined time frame
6. Have an ecology check – impact on self and those around you
When setting goals in this way it is as if the brain experiences them as real and therefore responds in that way. It exactly the same process for experiencing anticipation of fear or anxiety so its much better to point it at what you really want.
A holiday can be seen as a pause from real life so I believe you should choose to pause and run the holiday movie as an experience you will really benefit from